How to Get From Confusion to Clarity About Your Goals
“No, Really…What Is It You Most Desire in Life?”
“Unhappiness is not knowing what we want and killing ourselves to get it.” — Don Herold
Have you ever spend some time thinking about what you really want, only to realize that you have no clue what you truly desire?
I certainly have. There was a time in my life when I thought that was a rather unusual problem to have. After all, doesn’t everyone know what they want?
Over time, and after many conversations with other people, I realized that this is a much more wide-spread issue than it might seem.
I can’t tell you how many hours I’ve spent helping people getting clear on their desire. People often think that coaching is only about accomplishing goals. In reality, when I coach someone I often spend a lot of time helping them get clear on what they actually want.
A while ago, when I helped a rather confused client decide what she most wanted in life, the following thought raced through my head:
‘Oh, geez, I think I have become my client’s Lucifer. Without the drinking problem.’
Let me backtrack for a moment so I can explain what I mean by that.
What Lucifer has to do with anything
A while ago, I started watching Lucifer which is a fun show starring the actual devil (played by Tom Ellis). In it, Lucifer decides to leave hell and ends up becoming a crime-fighting, civil consultant for the LAPD.
The show’s Lucifer has a superpower (find your own superpower here) that comes in handy when trying to solve crimes: he’s able to extract people’s deepest desires from them, simply by making eye contact.
(He also can — and does — drink super-human amounts of alcohol without getting intoxicated. Hence the drinking problem.)
